A Letter to my Daughter on her Birthday

She has magic in her eyes.


Do you see it?  The wealth of possibilities just bubbling over?  She believes absolutely anything is possible.  She thinks I can do anything….and is just beginning to question if I will be around forever.

She makes me want to wear a cape, to sweep her away from any tough situation, to wrap her in my arms and keep her safe. Everyday.

This weekend she turned six.

It sounds so trite to say the last 2,190 days have been blinked away, but it most defintiely feels as though they have.  I blinked and she was born.  I blinked and she could walk.  I turned around to cook dinner and she was talking.  I stopped for 15 minutes to have another baby and she could sing, turn a cartwheel and play soccer.  I ran to the grocery store and she up and graduated from Kindergarten. (damn grocery store)


Of course, what I’m neglecting here, are the million hugs and “I love you, Mommys”.  Each one of those is etched into my soul and though they are fleeting – they are the most special because they mean she feels loved, she feels cared for and respected.

I have tried and failed no less than a dozen times this week to write down how I feel about my daughter, Delaney.  This is what I finally have to say…..

A quick note to my  birthday girl:

My Sweet Girl,

When you were born, I was so taken by your dark hair and those chocolate eyes, I couldn’t bear to look away.  I forced myself to let other people hold you, if only to spread the joy that seeped from your pores.

I now find myself having a similar experience.  While you have grown from a helpless infant to an  ‘I can do it’ toddling toddler to the independent little treasure you are now, I have often held my breath, hoping I would know when to hold your hand and when to stand behind you with a little push.

When I look into your eyes, I see possibilities.  You truly believe ANYTHING can happen.

And that is magic….

The kind of magic I will bottle and do my best to sprinkle over you as you sleep each and every night.  You can’t put a price on that kind of faith in the world.

During this last year – your sixth, I have seen the most significant changes in you – more than walking, more than talking…..  As these are tremendous milestones, they seem rooted in the physical.  What I am witnessing now is the growth of your mind, of your heart.  You are learning compassion and empathy.  You are learning to give, to hurt, to be you.

I am so incredibly proud of the little girl who couldn’t come up with what she wanted for her birthday – who didn’t even ask ALL DAY when she could open presents and the one who was overjoyed to receive a small piggy bank, a few books and a Kidz Bop CD.  I am in awe of the sweet girl, once so timid, who made a huge birthday invite list – unwilling to leave anyone out and who actually took charge while her friends were here rather than waiting for someone else to step up.

You are this beautiful little soul.  From you I have learned patience, I have experienced family, and I have evolved.  I am a better person for having you in my life.

Happy, Happy Birthday Baby Girl…..wishing you a million days that reflect the possibilities you see.

I love you with all my heart.

Love, Mommy

  • http://asouthernfairytale.com Rachel ~ Southern Fairytale

    D…. just yes.
    It flows like magic. I hear your voice in every word. Feel your heart in every syllable.

    Yes, just yes.

    Happy Birthday sweet girl, Happy Birth Day, D.

    Love you THIS much.

  • Danielle

    Rach – thank you my friend, so much…..xoxo

  • http://www.thesnyder5.com Molly

    Simply lovely. Happy birthday to her!

  • http://geezeescanvas.blogspot.com/ Stephanie@Geezees

    Beautiful letter to your daughter, got a little chocked up reading it.
    Happy Birthday to her :)

  • Danielle

    thank you so much, Molly :)

  • Danielle

    Stephanie~ I was choked up writing it :) Thank you!

  • http://www.frugaltractormom.blogspot.com Tractor Mom

    You’ve put into words how many of us feel about our children. Damn that grocery store that steals all those moments from us!


  • Amy

    Loved this! What a wonderful way to honor your beautiful daughter.

  • http://www.momadvice.com/blog Amy

    Can someone please hand me a tissue? You write what is on my own heart as I reflect on these eight years with my little guy and as we have celebrated his special day. What a blessing our children are and each day I thank God for each of them. You, Danielle, are an extraordinary mommy- you can see it shining through this letter to her. xoxo

  • http:/thinkmaya.com Maya

    Oh Danielle – sounds like your daughter is just like you – which is awesome :) You have a beautiful heart and I am sure your daughter does too .
    Having 13 kids for a sleepover takes a crazy big heart – yes.

    Love this – “You are learning compassion and empathy. You are learning to give, to hurt, to be you. ”

    You are such a beautiful mom.

  • http://mommyspiggytales.com Janna @ Mommy’s Piggy TALES – Record YOUR Youth

    Yes, the sweet and stingy pangs of motherhood…cheering them on yet wishing them back.

    You put into words what so many of us feel.

  • http://www.joeyfortman.com Joey Fortman

    YOU are a REALLY awesome mom! I love reading your glorious words to your kids. Inspirational!

  • Danielle

    Tractor Mom – It’s because I feel like I spend half my life in the grocery store, I swear :)

  • Danielle

    Amy – So grateful – thank you! I hope this makes her smile some day.

  • Danielle

    Amy – your comment made me tear up – thank you!! It was honestly so hard to write this letter – I started and stopped, started and stopped. I love that you have some of the same thoughts about your little guy – they are amazing, aren’t they? xoxoxo

  • Danielle

    Maya – I am honored to know you. Each time you enter my life, I am more grateful for you – thank you.

  • Danielle

    Janna~ Few things make me feel better than believing there are other moms experiencing the same joys and challenges I do…..I’m grateful for the reminder!!

  • http://www.mutheringheights.com Muthering Heights

    This is so sweet! Happy birthday to her!

  • Danielle

    Thank you my sweet friend!! xoxo

  • http://www.thecentsiblelife.com Kelly

    I need a tissue!

    I have a 6 year old too, and that is such a magical age. They are just starting to understand how complex and fragile the world is, but still look at it with (as you so eloquently said) magic in their eyes.

    Happy Birthday to your sweet girl, and Happy Birth Day to you!

  • http://allthingsmamma.com Kasey@All Things Mamma

    This is so sweet -and I got a little teary eyed reading it. My daughter is 4 1/2 and I understand what you mean about how quickly they grown into their own little personalities and people. So fast!

    Happy Birthday to your daughter!

  • http://www.princesszaria.com Cheryl Pope

    I absolutely love this post. Just think, she will have this love letter to read for years to come:)

  • Danielle

    Cheryl- thank you so much for that – I try to do a letter to each of them on their birthdays :) – hope they will appreciate them when they are older. At least they will know what I was thinking…

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