Caring for Moms Who Suffer a Miscarriage – Why Moms Matter

July 8, 2009 by 5 Comments

maureenIt was over breakfast at Denny’s that Maureen Day and her husband shared some special news with their four children, aged 7 to 20. They were expecting a new baby.  The reactions were initially mixed, but it wasn’t long before everyone was embracing the idea of a brand new addition to the family.

Around 8 weeks Maureen began spotting but didn’t think much of it – An ultrasound that allowed her to see her baby and hear that precious heartbeat convinced her everything was fine.  But after spotting again at 11 weeks, she was stunned by the nurse’s words, “Well, we’re not seeing what we would normally see….” She says she will never forget the image of the black hole on the monitor as the nurse moved the wand over her belly.

Maureen was amazed by the depth of her grief. For weeks, she was consumed by tears and a feeling of numbness.  Despite being surrounded by family and friend, Maureen felt alone.

kitIt was during this tragic time that HeavenBornwas ‘born’. Maureen created it as a not-for-profit that provides a tangible source of comfort – a handmade pillow, as well as a simple booklet that offers help in handling the physical and emotional challenges a mother in this position will face.

Maureen creates the pillows by hand with the help of some generous women. It is her goal to make these pillows available to all mothers who experience this type of tragedy. Many of the HeavenBorn pillows are now being given to mothers in local hospitals at their time of loss. HeavenBorn exists solely based on donations and volunteers who donate their time to create these small tokens of love. If you would like to donate your time…or you are interested in starting a HeavenBorn chapter in your area, email Maureen at Maureen@heavenborn.com.

Join us on a SPECIAL DAY (THURSDAY) for Why Moms Matter on Blog Talk Radio to learn more about Maureen and the amazing work she does for mothers experiencing the pain of miscarriage.

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  • http://www.kristydrake.blogspot.com PaisleyJade

    What a lovely idea! I have lost 2 babies and something like this would have been wonderful.

  • http://www.PainterMommy.com Dawn (Painter Mommy)

    This is so amazing to me how God uses devastating circumstances and brings out something so wonderful to be a blessing to others.

    I am so inspired by Maureen’s passion. In the midst of her suffering she was able to rise above the pain and turn her loss into something that could benefit the lives of other mothers going through the same pain.

    I LOVE LOVE this idea. I would love to add a button to my blog to promote this. I looked and did not see that she had one. I would be happy to create one if she is interested, at no charge. Please pass that on to her. She has a great logo already. I think this is something that all of us moms could spread the word about. Everyone of us has gone through or knows of someone who has gone through this type of loss.

    Thanks so much Danielle for sharing about this. I will miss the show because I am away on vacation, but I really hope it goes well and that lots of moms tune in and take part.

    Chat soon, DAWN

  • vivian

    I feel the pain and the grief. I have suffered through 3 miscarraiges. Of course my first was the most devastating..my first, but my third was heartbreaking. Due to my husband ans my age our Dr. recommended chromosome testing. All was well on Monday, strong heartbeat and all. After the long consultation we were escorted into the ultrasound room, and as soon as I saw the baby, I knew something was wrong. This would have been my third, and my other 2 did not appear the same at 12 weeks. The DR. said the hearbeat stopped a few days prior. God had a special plan for this baby. We were heartbroken, and thank God we had not told the other children about this baby. We waited til all was good, but God had a different plan.

  • Danielle

    Vivian~ Thank you for having the courage to share your story. I am so very sorry you have suffered these losses. Sending you love and prayers.

    Danielle

  • Michael

    From a man’s point of view, there is nothing so heartbreaking than seeing a Mom lose her first born. The “Mom” I’m speaking about is my kid sister.

    Her 1st child was a Down’s Syndrome baby, who was born on March 26, 1994. After having a successful open-heart surgery to repair a hole in her tiny heart when she was just 5 months old, proved to show she was a fighter. However, one late January night, in 1995, I received a call from my sister saying her baby had just died. She was crushed by this. She was a Registered Nurse and she couldn’t save her own child. She later told me that she was performing CPR on the child all the way to the hospital, while her in-laws drove. She couldn’t wait for an ambulance.

    To lose a niece when she was just 10 months old was something I hope never have to experience again. The whole family was dealt a horrific blow. It showed you just how precious life is. I still have vivid memory of the last time I held the child. It was close to Christmas and the child wouldn’t stop crying. But, for a small instant, I tickled her tummy and she quit crying long enough to smile at me. I still have that image in my mind. But, oh how I wish I could have known what was causing “Maggie” to cry.

    We later found out that Down’s Syndrome kids have gastro-intestinal disorders, that, if not treated promptly, could result in death. We also found out that the doctor’s treating the child, weren’t treating her aggressively enough, in regards to her gastro-intestinal problem. This is what caused her death.

    So, if the situation presents itself and you aren’t satisfied with the treatment your children are receiving, you have every right to fire your doctor and I find someone else who will treat them properly.

    As for my sister, she has had a hard time, professionally and from the aspect of being a mother, she still has her moments, from time to time. With our own Mom having Alzheimers, we both have been battling depression, of which, we are both being treated for.