I must have been 16, maybe 17…. Locked in one of many teen vs. mom battles of wills and I thought to myself “when I have a daughter, I will NEVER treat her like this!!” cue the heavenly orchestra because really? I KNEW BEST.
That sentiment was followed by many other variations:
“I will never say that….”
“Because I said so?…. What kind of B.S. is that anyway?”
“I will never make my daughter wear that….”
“Curfew? What curfew? I will TRUST my children….”
“My brother has different rules? I will treat my children the SAME….”
So, it was surprising to me when, the moment my small girl was placed in my arms, the world shifted on its axis. I always knew I would love her. But I didn’t know I would LOVE her. Because no one can really prepare you for what that feels like – the emotion that sweeps your soul – the commitment you make to yourself, to her – in that split second, “I will take care of you, baby…. Even when you fight me.”
And I knew.
I knew that all of those teen angst moments would come back to haunt me. I will be hard on my children – because I love them. I will have high expectations for them – because they deserve that. There are rules. Because they need them to shape their sense of right and wrong. And no, they don’t like some of them – but you know what? I can make those rules…. Because I said so.
It surprised me to realize I had this in me. It surprised me to realize that while I was wrong all that time, I really just didn’t know – how could I? And you know what? My kids will feel the same way. And someday… I imagine, they will be surprised to realize that I too, like my Mom (and Dad) really did know what I was doing…
What has been most surprising to you about Motherhood?
As a side note: Other things that I have found surprising?
- When your child is sick or hurting, you can and will tolerate anything – even vomit in you hair.
- I’m not nearly as patient as I thought I was
- I can operate on 4 hours of sleep a night. For a very long time.
- The love you feel as a parent is fierce. Like I-will-knock-you-down kind of fierce. I hope I am never tested.
- I believe kids are born with a certain personality – and no amount or ‘kind’ of parenting will change that
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