Softball Angels

Twelve Angels stared at me.  I looked into their eyes which were underlined with a black crayon type substance.  The visors hovered above their heads being supported by pony tails similar to the image of a dozen halos.  If bells were ringing, I would have asked them all to turn around, so I could check to see if they, in fact, had wings.  I would have believed it after how far they’d risen after getting knocked down only two nights prior by the same team.  Seven innings were complete in this game.  21 innings over the course of the day.  These floating phenoms had been at this same field for over seven hours.  And, yet, this game was still tied.

This story is about the most exciting day I’ve ever experienced on a diamond.

The Lake St. Louis Angels are a group of 7 and 8 year old softball players, of which my daughter is a part.  Yours truly is one of the coaches.  I entered the team in a “club level” tournament in a neighboring county, about an hour round trip commute from home to Field 6.  The Angels are a “rec” team meaning it’s a group of friends that like playing together.  This weekend’s competition includes teams that were “hand selected” to find the best 12 players for their team.  I don’t begrudge this type of team.  I think there are a time and a place for a “select” team.  I’m just not ready to commit my 7-year old to “select” softball quite yet.  (This is where this post could go in a different direction, but I’m saving that type of discussion for another day).  Now, that you have a quick idea of who the Angels are and what they’re up against, I’m going to take you to Game 1.  Friday Night.

12-0 Loss.  Ugh.  What did I get these kids into?  I felt responsible for making their parents drive through rush hour only to get shellacked by what appeared to be superior talent and definitely was superior coaching.  I felt terrible.  For the kids.  For the parents.  I was close to retiring.  Then, the Angels taught this coach a lesson.

Sunday Morning, 9:15am.  It was 45 minutes before first pitch, I’m throwing BP to some of the girls, and my stomach was in knots.  I thought to myself, “well, if we get rocked again, I guess we could all go swimming.”  It was hot.  And, all of a sudden, so were the Angels’ bats.  18 runs later, the team that was blanked 36 hours prior defeated a highly skilled team aptly knows as “the Prospects” by ten runs.  18-8 Final.  The Angels advance to a 4 pm Semi-Final Game, opponent TBD.

We all leave the complex, grab some eats, return at 3:15p for warm-ups to find out the Prospects get another shot at Heaven’s Heroes.  Time to let you inside my little mind…On one glove, if we lose, well, it was worth the trip because we played three games, won one, and were able to see the level of competition that we could play at…and, on the other glove, if we win, I found out the team that whipped us on Friday night would be our opponent for a Championship Game.  That could be rough as well, but it would be nice to see what these kids can do if they play the way they did that morning.  Okay, Angels, let ‘er fly.  And, fly, they did, around the bases, run after run after run, putting up another 18 to win yet again 18-10.

So, it’s time for a shot at the New York Yankees.  That’s what this team looked like.  These kids were dressed as sharply as they played.  And, they were smart.  Their coach was speaking Spanish and English to them.  I was impressed and intimidated.  I’m lucky if I can find more than one way to say “please, I’m begging you, when you’re in the field, do not take your eye off the ball, if you do, the ball will find your eye.”  And, you know what, our kids could care less what type of glossy finish was on their uniform, what language they were speaking or that they had a perfect record through the first 21 games of their summer season.  I wish I was 8 again.  Kids are smart.

If you started reading this post at the top, you now know that the score is tied after 7 innings which means “extra innings” because well, this is the Championship Game, and the scoreboard must dictate a winner.  Our team runs off the field and straight to me.  I stop them in a group huddle prior to entering the dugout.  I say to them “Angels, I’m so proud of you.  You’ve taught me a lesson in never, ever giving up, not ever.  And, I’m here to tell you that no matter what happens in the 8th inning and/or beyond, you all deserve a high as the sky, where the Angels live, High 5.”  One of the little girls looks at me and asks, “Coach Jeff, do we get a trophy if we lose this game and finish in second place?”  “I’m really not sure ladies, but it’s not about the trophy, it’s about how far you’ve come since Friday.  You’ve shown everyone what you can do.”  Then, they all just glared at me, like I insulted their talent level.  One of the girls gets right up next to me and says “Coach Jeff, we’re here to win. Who bats first this inning?”

Now, I’m going to give you a brief Play-by-Play.  The Yankees…er Redhawks make some dazzling plays in the field, and the Angels have a runner on a second base with 2 out, no runs have scored this inning and my kid is at the plate.  Keep in mind that the Redhawks have “last licks” (baseball speak for … they’re the home team, so get to bat last).  Well, Delaney makes an out.  She’s crushed.  Her head is buried under her jersey.  It’s all tied up heading to the bottom of the 8th.  One of the other Dads takes her aside and tells her that it’s a part of the game, and she needs to get out to her position and make a play to assure that there is a 9th inning, and that this game won’t end quite yet.  A couple of her teammates pat her on the back as they head to stop the Redhawks one more time.

First hit of the bottom of the 8th is a line drive scorcher two steps to our shortstop’s left.  Our shortstop is Delaney.  She snags it.  One out.  The smile is back.  (Special thank you to the Dad that pumped her up…he knows who he is, and I’ve thanked him a thousand times in the past week).  Inning ominously progresses.  Bases are now loaded, two out, so championship run is only 60 feet away.  Are you ready for this?  One hop smash to the pitcher’s left (Emma), she gets a small piece of it, re-directing it to the second baseman, Maddie, who throws to Libby, our first baseman to get the runner by a half step.  Holy Angels up on High!!!  I look to the heavens and cannot believe what just happened.  I half expected a real angel to be standing in front of me.  What I got were 12 of them looking at me, completely mute, waiting for instructions.  That’s a miracle in itself.  One of them just said “Okay, Coach, we held them like you asked us to do, now what? 9th inning, right?  Who’s up?  Let’s end this thing.”

And, end it, they did.  The Angels scored 5 in the 9th to the Redhawks 3 and won the game by an NFL-esque score of 28-26.

After the last was recorded, I didn’t say a word.  I walked down the right field line, and just watched a group of friends have the time of their life celebrating with each other.  I’m thankful that my wife took pictures, a lot of pictures.  It was like a scene in a movie, best I’ve ever seen.  I give it 12 stars.

 

Opening Day: Why I’m Not Going To See The World Champion St. Louis Cardinals (A Dad’s Perspective)

You know that feeling of “I want to get to bed NOW because I cannot wait to wake up tomorrow.”  It’s 6pm.  You’ve already eaten dinner, taken a shower, brushed your teeth, placed your slippers at the end of the bed, hung your robe on the back of your door, and set your alarm for 4:29am. (Sidebar:  I’ve never worn slippers or a robe, but I look forward to that day) (Another Sidebar:  I wake up at 4:29am every day.  There’s significance to the 4:29.  I’ll explain further down).

My kids have that feeling on Christmas Eve, the night before their birthday, evening prior to heading out of town on vacation, day before first day of school, night before going to Six Flags, I could go on and on.  Wow, when we were kids, we had a lot of those.  So, what gives you that feeling?  I have one night a year when I get this feeling.

And, that night is tonight.

Tomorrow is Opening Day.  Super baseball fans will argue that the Mariners and A’s have already played “games that count” last week in Japan.  True.  But, tomorrow is the first “regular season” game in the ole USA.  Major League Baseball Starts this season showcasing the World Champs, St Louis Cardinals, on the road in baseball’s newest ballpark with baseball’s only “renamed” franchise in 2012, the Miami Marlins.

It just so happens that the World Champs happen to be my team.  The last time that I was this excited was a late Friday Night this past October as I danced down Broadway in Downtown St Louis when “my team” won its 11th World Championship.  So, after the Champs open their season on the road, they’ll return to Busch Stadium to open up the 2012 Home season celebrating last season’s Championship run.  Who would pass up a chance to be at that celebration?

Well, me.

Quick story.  Buddy of mine calls today to say he has two extra tickets for next Friday’s Home Opener.  Two hours prior to this call, I receive my 7 year old daughter’s Softball schedule and she has a game that same night.  I’m not passing judgment on the majority of those that would rather go to the Home Opener, but that day has passed for this baseball (and now softball) fan.  I went to 9 straight Home Openers with my Dad when I was a young fan.  The best part of going to the game was NOT the game, nor the parade of Budweiser Clydesdales high stepping into Busch, it was going to the game with my Dad.  And, see, the best part of my life now is going to games with my kids and even better, watching my two all-stars play.  I love it.  I live for it.  (Dang, this post just threw a curve ball at you, eh?)

So, while I contemplate going to bed right now (It’s 4 o’clock in the afternoon as I write this), I know that I have another one of these nights coming in one week, as my 7 year old shortstop plays her season opener, then, yet another 3 weeks after that as my 5 year old future Major Leaguer has his season opener.  Wow.  I am still a kid.  I do have a lot of these “nights” left in me.

Well, I just glanced at the clock.  It’s 4:29pm.  I must wake in exactly 12 hours.  See, #4 is Cardinal Catcher, Yadier Molina and #29 is Cardinal Ace, Chris Carpenter, best battery in baseball.  I wake everyday thinking about my favorite game, and I go to bed tonight dreaming of tomorrow, Opening Day.

I would turn back the covers right now, but I have to get to a Little League Baseball practice then over to a Fast Pitch Softball scrimmage.  Once we’ve touched those two bases, I have a game of my own.  Yes.  I still play baseball.  Then, it’ll be time to head for home…to score some sleep before tomorrow’s big day.  I cannot wait…

Sincerely,

A Baseball Fan (and Daddy)

 

 

Winning isn’t everything, but it IS something….

Ok – here’s the deal, I am about as soft-hearted as they come.

I WISH…..deep-down-in-my-soul wish….that the world was fair, but guess what??  It’s NOT.

There are winners.  There are losers.

Some kids are smarter, some nail their ballet routines, some can do flips off the high dive, some hit home runs, score goals and kick it through the uprights.

But you know that isn’t everyone, right?

cimg8167Why am I ranting about this?  Because my daughter is on a softball team.  She’s heading in to first grade, so the little darlings on her team are only six.  (This photo is actually of her last year) So, I don’t expect the full rules of the game to apply – but I do think they need to be taught some basics:  3 outs ends your inning, if you get out – you go back to the bench.

For the first 3/4 of the season, that’s how the game was played – with modified softball rules:  the inning ends when one teams gets three outs or 5 runs – whichever comes first.  But for the last few games, we are suddenly batting every girl in an inning – regardless of outs…..and, even if you get out….you stay on base to run?  Whaaaaa? (This is, by the way, how first year T-Ball is played )

I’m all for keeping it fair. I absolutely want them all to get a turn.  But they already know about the three outs AND they know to sit if they are tagged out.  They want to keep playing as we have been….So why the reversal?

Because the opposing team requested it.

And so our girls spend the game asking, “how many outs do we have?” and “how many runs have we scored?”

In the span of the season, our girls have learned to hit.  They run the bases like champs.  They sprint to get someone ‘out’.  But when they do it all, it doesn’t count?

When our coach compliments the girls on the opposing team, THAT coach replies with, “what matters is that they are having fun”.

Well, yes, it most certainly does matter if they are having fun, but it is possible to BE GOOD and have fun.  And it is possible to BE LEARNING THE GAME and have fun.  ”FAIR” and “FUN” are not mutually exclusive.

Of course I want them to have fun.  In fact, I’m confident THEY ARE HAVING FUN.  (unless they are bored to death by an inning that takes forever and outs that don’t count)

The funny thing is, they don’t seem to care IF they win, just simply that SOMEONE does.

There, I said it.  I’m done.

The world isn’t fair.  There are winners.  There are losers.

I think one of my jobs as a parent is to teach my children to try hard – their very best even, and to both win AND lose gracefully – because it is a guarantee they will face both situations as they get older.

Your thoughts?