Do You Celebrate the Small Moments?

When was the last time your family stopped to celebrate? Was it a birthday?  A big-game win? Or do you breathe in the everyday moments… basking in the beauty of all the little ‘firsts’, the triumphs both you and your small people experience?

Do you smile at the close parking spots, the unexpected deal at the checkout, the surprise extended deadline?

Do you stop when your children walk in the door from school, or is your nose pointed at your computer?

I’m here to suggest you stop and find joy in the small. Embrace those first few seconds when they burst through the door ready to share their successes and frustrations, their stories and what they learned.

Today, I was regaled with stories about shark attacks, Susan B. Anthony, polar bears, the periodic table, that girls weren’t allowed to go to school in Ancient Greece, and the birth state of President Barack Obama.  I was asked about the size of the sun, the penalties faced by the kicking team when a field goal is at stake, what would happen if chocolate was a vegetable and whether or not we could ever trade Daddy for a baby sister. (Delaney was joking on that last one.  I think :) )

But you know what elicited the biggest cheers?

Shoe tying.

It is something I have been doing for more than 30 years.  But the small dude finally figured it out tonight – after weeks and weeks of putting it off, after multiple attempts and near-tears moments, tonight was the night.

We laughed.  We high-fived.  He danced.

We celebrated.

(For the record – go with making two bunny ears – that was the trick that tipped Coop’s shoe-tying success)

Take the time.  It is worth it. I promise.

What was the last thing that made your family belly-laugh, jump for joy or tackle each other with joy?

The Best of Friends

20121017-201805.jpgIt is hard to describe how I feel when I see a moment like this.  Coop has yet to learn how to tie his shoes, and it is his big sister who wants to teach him. Though they frequently squabble, as most small people do, my sweet girl is far more likely to say, “Come here, Coopy, I’ll show you how”, just like she did this morning.

She sits down patiently right in front of him, tying and untying as she shows him the ‘one way she knows how’. Not known for her patience (I’m not sure where she has picked up that trait :) , she doesn’t even seem to get frustrated when he asks to try it himself. And fails. And tries again. And fails.

My little brother and I are two and a half years apart and have never been close.  Every story my parents relay from our childhood revolves around picking at each other, bickering and a series of, “I know you are, but what am I?” taunts.  My small people are only 23 months apart and I have to confess I worried about having them so close.  I worried they would be on top of each other at every turn, picking at each other and making us all crazy.

I can’t lie.  They do fight some.  They roll their eyes, they tattle and they try to get each other in trouble.  But that is only about 20% of the time.  Truly.  The rest of the time, they hug, they protect, they giggle and tackle, they teach.  I know if I’m not there to take care of them, they will reach out to each other.

If my husband had written a letter to God before they were born, he would have asked for healthy, happy children who love sports as he does.  If I had written a letter, I would have asked for God to help them to make each other a priority, to see each other for the best friends they can be.  I wanted them to have something I never did, and still don’t.

Without ever writing it down, God heard the prayers in both of our hearts.  I’m so grateful.

Anheuser Busch Family Talk About Drinking Roundtable Highlights

It may be a conversation you have yet to broach with your children – underage drinking.

But starting to chat with them when they are young is ideal. By young, I mean preschool.  And by ‘chat’, I don’t mean lecture in a stern voice.

I recently hosted a live virtual roundtable for Anheuser Busch on their Family Talk About Drinking Facebook page. I chatted with two experts, MJ Corcoran, a certified parent coach who helped to revamp the program and Kathy Casso, the VP of Corporate Social Responsibility at Anheuser Busch. The Family Talk program is a guide to help you begin the conversation about underage drinking with your children when they are young, stick with it when they are in middle school and continue it into high school and college. The program lasted 40 minutes –  but these are the highlights.

I’m so proud of this project… I hope you take the time to watch.

Tell me – what do you think?

Gratitude and Thanks, from Me to YOU….

A simply thank you….

Happy Thanksgiving….

What are YOU thankful for?

What I learned from Kindergarten (my daughter’s)

Dear Delaney~

A first grader?  YOU??  Aren’t you still my baby?

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When did you learn to walk and talk?  To run, jump, swing and swim?

Did I blink?  You really aren’t a Kindergartner anymore?

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Did the year fly by for you?

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For me it felt like a few snaps, a quick turn of the jump rope, a roll of the eyes, and sweet little song.

I know you learned alot….I can see it in your smile, in the way you hold your head.  I can tell by the way you look people in the eyes and say please and thank you instead of hiding behind me.  I feel it when you want to walk without holding my hand…..and of course when you won’t let go. I can see it in how you treat your little brother.

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I have learned a few things myself this year.

What I learned while you were in Kindergarten:

What you are doing each day at school is as much about what ISN’T  in your official curriculum as what is

You really are right most of the time.  If you argue vehemently that your Girl Scout patches go on the back of your vest, you are probably right – even though it seems silly to me.

Holding hands when you head out in to the world is still the best idea ever.

Do as I do is a much better motivator than Do as I say

Apparently 5 is the age when you begin to think your Mom has turned the corner onto Uncool Blvd. I was preparing for 15. (though I know you are still the best snuggler when it is just you and me)

I miss you.  I know you need to grow, but I miss you.

I hurt when you hurt…. whether it is your skinned knees and elbows or your feelings.

You being YOU is both fabulous and frightening.

You are so tremendously creative – your drawing, journaling, coloring – it is amazing.

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And your singing – don’t ever stop using this special talent.

You still need my hugs.  Which is good….because I definitely need yours.

You remind me to believe in the world, to believe in myself and to experience joy as though it is my j-o-b.

I am a better person, a better mother for knowing you.

You are beautiful, intelligent, goofy (just like your daddy) and most importantly, Kind.

I am proud of you, Sweet Girl.

Could you just slow down on the whole growing-up-thing?  I need you to need me a bit longer.

Love, Mommy

P.S. Nice work on the counting, the telling time, the reading.  You are remarkable.

P.P.S You are welcome for the cookies.

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Finding My Center

Sometimes life gets a little heavy.

You find yourself settling under layer after layer of junk until your breathing gets labored and you struggle to focus.

You can’t work, you can’t play, you question every little thing you do – from your ability to take care of your family – even doing laundry seems complicated  - to completing work tasks – are you sure you can get it done?

The little voices in your head work both ways….  ”Of course you can get it done….” battling it out with, “I’ll never finish….”

When this happens….as is clearly the case right now….I try to focus on what is most important in my world – my center.

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This picture showcases my center.

Four people – two big, two small.  Experiencing joy in the setting I love most in the world.

Somehow, some way, this moment captures the place I need to be, the feelings I need to internalize.

I’m trying.

What do you do when you feel a little lost?

Wordless Wednesday

Gratitude – I am most thankful for…..

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