Student Inspires Class to BE AWESOME with Help From Kid President

StaroftheweekI am giddy just thinking about how proud I am of my sweet girl.  I’ve told you before that she is a touch shy.  And by shy, I mean, she prefers not to speak in front of people, she often hesitates to make eye contact, and if you are an adult, you sometimes have to lean in to hear her speak when you ask her a question.

This past week, Delaney was chosen to be ‘Star of the Week’ at school.  This means she is highlighted for being exceptionally good and kind the previous week.  Star of the Week Students bring in pictures of themselves and their family to show everyone about their lives – who they are, what makes them happy and what they love to do for fun.  Delaney had no problem doing that portion.  But on Thursday, the Star of the Week is also expected to lead the class in an activity – they can teach their classmates, sing a song, do a dance, read a book or any number of activities.  This had my girl’s tummy in knots.  And by proxy, mine too.

Until I saw this. This is one heck of a Pep Talk.  I wrote about how much I loved it.  I showed it to my family.  And my friends.  I posted it anywhere and everywhere because I thought everyone needed to see it.  And I still do.

But the best part?  When my small girl saw it, we began to formulate a plan for her Star of the Week class activity and it all revolved around talking about BEING AWESOME just like Kid President.

Here’s how it happened:

So, this is what Delaney did in her class:

She read Robert Frost’s poem, The Road Not Taken. 

She showed Kid President’s Pep Talk.

And then passed out a sheet of paper with a few questions:

  • “What makes you awesome?”,
  • “What can you do to make the world awesome?”
  • “Who supports you?”

I couldn’t WAIT until Delaney came home from school to hear all about it.  She actually stood in front of her class, read a poem, explained what the ‘Road Not Taken’ means, showed the video and talked about what it means to BE AWESOME.

She was AWESOME.

She had the time of her life.

And I’m having the time of mine.

I First Held Her 8 Years Ago

Tonight, during bedtime prayers, my husband told my small people that I was the bravest person they might ever know.  At 6 and 8, they blindly believe him.  Eyes wide, heads nodding.  They know the outline of my story, but not the details.

Eight years ago at this very moment, I was in a hospital room, waking from anesthesia, having become a mom only a few short hours earlier.  My surgery was sudden.  It was unexpected.  It was terrifying.

When they took me away I had only held my sweet girl one time – for less than two minutes.  And I was violently ill from the pain.  When they took me away, my husband was gone….in the chapel, praying.  We had been complaining for hours.  I was told I was at seizure level for morphine – I couldn’t be given anymore.  And yet, I was wide awake, each breath more painful than the last – the pain seeping through my pores.

I had hemorrhaged after having Delaney.  Not unheard of, but frightening still.  My doctor was a miracle worker – never hinting at the fear she felt as she tried for what felt like hours to stop the bleeding…all while keeping Jeff and I both unaware of the danger and laughing.  Unfortunately, my problems didn’t stop when the hemorrhaging did.  Because I began to bleed internally at a different location.  I developed an internal hematoma – THIS is what was causing the new pain.

THIS is why I needed emergency surgery.

THIS is why my hospital bed was empty when Jeff came back from the chapel.

THIS is why my doctor hugged my husband when she walked out of surgery.

THIS is why he thought I had died.

But her hug wasn’t a consolation, it was one of relief.

I wasn’t the first mother at the hospital to hemorrhage, but I was the first to require emergency surgery for an internal hematoma – one that was so intense, it was visible to the eye.

So, eight years ago, at this very moment, I was waking up, covered in blankets (I apparently always complain of being cold as I come out of anesthesia) listening in bits and pieces as Jeff spoke softly on the phone.

“…..she had a bit of a rough go….”

“…..emergency surgery…. yes, scary…”

“…..hoping she wakes up soon…”

“….Delaney?  Delaney is perfect…”

And that last part, that is what mattered most to me.  That and having him sitting right there.

So, as I finish writing this…. it is right about NOW, eight years ago, that I truly held my baby girl for the very first time.

And he was right.  She was perfect.  She IS perfect….eight years later.

A Message Of Hope To A Shy Girl

Sometimes it is kindness from a stranger that can make all the difference in the world.  And it is JUST this message that I try, with my whole heart, to teach my small people every single day.

I suppose, because this is such an important message for me – it is extraordinary to see it in action.

My small girl can sing. She has a beautiful, clear voice….a talent I have never possessed.  Listening to her can bring me to tears.  I know, I know….. I’m her mom, so naturally, I’m biased, but it is a talent I would love to nurture.  But she is SHY.  And not just a touch, but truly terrified of singing in front of anyone.  So much so, that she will stop what she is doing mid-sentence if you catch her in the act.

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In April, at the Academy of Country Music Awards, I had the chance to sit down with Coy Bowles of The Zac Brown Band. While we were chatting about his children’s book Amy Giggles and his invovlement with Child Hunger Ends Here, I shared Delaney’s love of his music and just how shy she is about her voice.  So he autographed his book to her.

And I melted.

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I asked Coy where he learned to be so kind and giving.  His answer?  Zac Brown.

I wish I could have bottled Delaney’s reaction when she saw Coy’s message to her.  This is something she won’t forget. I will always be grateful to him for reinforcing not only her love of music, but her faith in herself.  It is a message Coy shares beautifully in Amy Giggles.

My small girl keeps that book tucked next to her bed.  I won’t be surprised if she takes it with her to college. And whether she decides to pursue singing or not, I will know Coy played a part in teaching Delaney the power of kindness and that it is ok to be yourself.

If you would like to make a difference in the life of a child, know that you can through the Child Hunger Ends Here campaign.  One in five children in the United States is hungry. But you can help. The added bonus is music for you: the song Here’s Hope was written by Hunter Hayes and performed by three different artists in order to fight child hunger.

If you would like a copy of the song, purchase a participating Con Agra Foods Brand, head to Child Hunger Ends Here, enter the code you see on the back and you can download one of three versions for free: Jewel, Owl City or Jay Sean’s.  When you do this, the equivalent of one meal will be donated to Child Hunger.

 Disclosure: I am proud, for the fourth time, to have partnered with Con Agra Foods for the Child Hunger Ends Here Program. All opinions (and experiences) are mine and mine alone.

One Tough Cookie

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This is the small girl who is always in ready position.

This is the small girl who has been playing ball for five years now – since she was three.

This is the small girl who hops before she throws a rocket from shortstop to first base.

This is the small girl who wiggles as she sets her stance at bat.

This is the small girl who stopped my heart last night when she fouled the ball off her forehead.

This is the small girl who, with a purple goose egg as her badge, got back in the game, batted and put herself right back in that ‘ready stance’ you see there.

This is my small girl.

She is one Tough Cookie.

My Greatest Sports Moment – A Daddy Diary

My 7-year old daughter (a smooth defensive infielder) approached the gates of Busch Stadium on October 27th and said to me, “Daddy, this feels different than the last Cardinal game we went to…There are a lot more people.  I mean, a lot more people. And, they just seem to be acting differently.  Why is that?”  I responded with pride, “Delaney, welcome to the World Series, the greatest sporting event there is, and our Cardinals are playing in it.”

We handed our Game 6 tickets to the Ticket Taker, and that’s where this story takes an evil turn.  Our tickets did not scan.  We were escorted to a member of the Stadium’s Management Team (not Tony Larussa), then asked to pay a visit to the Ticket Office.  We were informed that our tickets were counterfeit, and we were out of luck.  Within minutes, my daughter and I went from sitting in the bleachers inside Busch to sitting on a curb outside Busch.

We sat there for a few minutes without saying a word when finally my little girl gazed up at me with her sweet, innocent face which was buried underneath her RED winter stocking cap snuggled under 4 layers of RED shirts and sweatshirts, and says “Daddy, I don’t understand what just happened.  Why won’t they let us inside to watch the game?”  I admit it.  My eyes began to water and not because of the 25mph blustery wind hitting us with a 40 degree wind chill.  This was among the saddest moments of my life.

I explained to her that earlier in the day Daddy had purchased 2 tickets from a man who said he could not attend that night’s game due to a family conflict thanks to the previous night’s rainout.  Game 6 was supposed to be played the night before, but it was postponed due to rain.  He had a good story.  I bought it, and I bought what I thought to be 2 bleacher tickets to Game 6 of the World Series.  He got me.  In looking back, I can see the red flags now.  But, I admit that I was seeing RED that entire day, and wasn’t even thinking this was a possibility.  Yes, I’m naïve.  And, yes, I’ll never get on Craig’s List again.  I  know, I know, I’m an idiot for even thinking this was an option, but for a non season ticket holder that was struggling to swallow the Stub Hub prices, and lost out on the team’s auction for tickets, Craig’s List seemed to be my only option.  I know, I flubbed it. Error Daddy.

So, there we sat on the sidewalk for over an hour.  Delaney then turned to me and said “Daddy, let’s go get some dinner.”  So, we went over to Friday’s Restaurant which had cleared out as those with “real” tickets walked over to the game.  We watched the first couple of innings while eating a burger, fries, and a strawberry RED slushee (Delaney’s choice).  She said “Daddy, let’s walk back over to the Stadium.”  “Really?, I questioned”  “Yes, Daddy, I want to hear what it sounds like when that many people all get excited at the same time.  I want to hear what a World Series sounds like.”  Oh, yah, sure, I had dry eyes, and I can also hit a 99mph Fastball.  Not so much.

If the “seller” had walked past me at that point in time, I would have gone all Mike Tyson on him (not the Mike Tyson that played for the Cardinals in the 70s either).  I’m not tough.  I can also admit that.  But, you Dads know what I’m talking about.  This thief stole an experience from my little girl, and well, you don’t have to have biceps the size of Albert Pujols to knock someone out of the park.

My little “Red” bird and I walked around the Stadium for a couple of innings, just taking in the World Series atmosphere.  I tried to haggle with a couple of scalpers knowing the entire time that I just couldn’t bring myself to risk another counterfeit experience and spend more money on this game.  Besides, what if “we” lost?  Ugh.  I couldn’t go there either.  So, after the 4th Inning, I looked at a tired little girl and said “Honey, how bout we go home and watch the rest of the game with Mom and your brother?  I’m so sorry that we’re not inside watching this game.  I’m truly very sorry.”  She looked at me and said “Daddy, this was the best game that I’ve ever been to.  It’s the World Series, and I’m with you.”  Yep, call your Water Utility Company because I had enough H2O streaming down my cheeks to take care of your entire town.

So, she bounced into my arms, threw her arms around my neck squeezing me tighter than a runner from 3rd sprinting home on a sac bunt attempt (baseball reference), then I flung her onto my shoulders and I skipped all the way back to my car with my little girl singing “Take me out to the Ballgame” and of course, “Never say Never” by Justin Beiber.

We buckled into our seats in the Top of the 5th.  She was asleep 1 out later.  When we arrived at our home, it was the 6th.  I picked her up, put her on the couch, and rubbed her head while she slept on my lap all the way until the Bottom of the 9th when 2 men were on, and 2 were out with 2 strikes on Cardinal batter David Freese.  You all know what happened in the game from that point on, but I will say this, she never even made a peep.  She was safe and sound at home, and that was good enough for her.  Thanks to the Home Town Kid, David Freese, the Cardinals, miraculously, won that game after being 1 strike away from elimination not once, but twice, and the 3rd baseman was the hero both times.

That game will go down as the greatest Baseball game in St Louis Cardinal History, and I’ll never forget it as my Greatest Sports Moment.  I owe it all to an infielder whose first name starts with the letter “D” …. Delaney Smith, my little girl.

Sincerely,

Delaney’s Daddy

November 27th, 2011

I’m Home. And I am Grateful.

Since coming home from the Book Tour for Mom, Incorporated, my small people have been attached to my hip.  I would love to be tough and tell you it is just them, but really – it is easily as much me as anything else.  I honestly cannot get enough of them.

They aren’t even getting on my nerves when they are fighting.



Well, that’s a lie.  But you know what I mean.  Because, really?  The fighting is ridiculous.  But, other than that – they are divine.  They want desperately to hold my hand, to help me make dinner, to sit next to me on the couch, even to help put laundry away – as long as it is something WITH me. And do you know how many times a day these small people say, “Mommy, you’re so pretty….”?  It is almost like they are seeing me for the first time.

I certainly have moments when I feel like this might be the first time I am really seeing them.  They seem so big.  So grown up.  And so very baby all at the same time.  They are sharing stories, asking questions and talking, talking, talking…. They want my opinion and are dying to share theirs….

Today, Delaney asked, “Mommy….when are you leaving again?”  The joy when I said, “Not any time soon, Baby….” was palpable.

At this moment, I will do anything to see that joy again.  And so…. I am home.  And I am grateful.

Wordless Wednesday – A ‘Yes’ Day With Mommy (Offline!)

This is what happened when I told my sweet girl I wouldn’t be working on Monday.  And even better, I wouldn’t even open my computer….  Clearly, my undivided attention matters…. (and what you can’t see, but *might* be able to imagine?  Her dancing feet…..)