A Letter To All The Teachers I Know

Cooper Writes Letter to TeacherI believe that you are changing lives every single day,

May you know this as I do…

That you are shaping minds,

That it is within your classrooms that small people often decide:

Veterinarian….Artist….Comedian….Scientist…..Astronaut…..President

And it is YOUR, ‘yes, you can‘ that makes all the difference,

That tips the scale.

It is your smile

Your call on the raised hand

Your encouragement

Your belief

And soft criticism

That guides,

That pushes 1st grade in to 2nd

and

Pulls 3rd grade in to 4th.

It is your structure

Your unwillingness to accept anything but their best

That forces them from their comfort zone into their momentum zone.

And for this, we, their parents, say THANK YOU.

Thank you for the long hours, for the loud classrooms, for the snow days, the rainy days, the sick days, the Crayola days, the science fair days, and oh yes… the field trips.

Thank you for pushing and pulling, for prodding and guiding, for nurturing and teaching.

I hope, whether you receive one or not… that you know the children in your classrooms share this sentiment…. their favorite thing about this year – even if they don’t say it, is very likely, YOU.

Letter to teacher

 

Breaking the Parenting Rules

MotherDaughterLoveAs the car pulled in, I could see that her light was on.  My small girl has this glorious window seat on the second floor of the house that looks out to the world.  When we built the house, I could imagine her curled up there and reading, peeking out from behind curtains for friends to arrive or a date to come.  But tonight, it was just after 10pm, so I was picturing her snuggled in bed, a book having slipped from her fingers as she fell asleep.

But as I walked in the house, that sweet little Punky was waiting on the stairs, “I waited up for you, Mommy.”  It was so late….her bedtime on a school night is 8:30, so she was almost 2 hours late.  I wanted to be horrified.  (she can be a demon when she doesn’t get the sleep she needs!)  But, I have to confess I was giddy.

I am in love with that little girl. And the fact that she was so excited to see me, she kept her little eyes open until she heard the car? Well, it means the world to me. And in a time when I struggle with the internal ‘guilt’ of traveling and being away – even for a job I adore – this reminds me I’m doing something right. I may travel, but we are connected.  She knows she is loved.  And she loves me. She trusts me enough to know I won’t be mad at her for breaking the bedtime rules.

Getting a little sweet time with her is worth it.  We sat on the steps.  We snuggled. She whispered to me all about her day. She asked about mine and finished with, “Mommy, I know you always do a good job.” And I melted into a big pool of weepy motherhood. She asked me to tuck her in, “I want to hold your hand”, and walked me up the stairs.

It doesn’t seem like much, this breaking of the rules, but in my world, it is special. She is special. I know there will be a day when my comings and goings will pass by unnoticed. She’ll sleep through my arrival, forget to ask how my day went and hesitate when I ask about hers.

Until then, I’m a rule breaker. And I believe that is a good thing.

Every Kid Deserves This Kind of Carefree Joy….

I spent one morning last week doing one of my very favorite things in the whole world: sitting on the beach and watching my small people play.  For me, the beach is a sensory experience – the second I arrive, I’m overwhelmed by goodness.  I love the salty smell, the sounds of the waves hitting the shore, the feel of warm sand between my toes and every time I’m mesmerized by the sight of the ocean as it exhibits the power that only it can.

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Living in the middle of the country means we don’t often have the luxury of this sensory overload – and as my small people hit the sand and take off like mini-beach-missiles, I find myself, once again, longing to live on the coast.

They run.

They jump.

Kids Beach Delaney Leap

They dance.

They leap.

They pitch sand. (of course they do).

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They construct sandcastles.

And play beautifully with each other.

They sprint to the water and race to me, fingers speckled in the gold flecks that I have only ever seen here in San Diego on Coronado Island.

KidsSand Dollars

Screams of, “I’m rich!” punctuate the soft whoosh of the waves as the tide moves in. And then they are gone again, compelled to catch the gold as though it will buy them out of the years of school they have in their future.

But then they discover a plethora of sand dollars.  And by plethora, I mean more than I have ever seen in one place at one time.  Big ones,  medium sized and teeny-tiny – all flecked with the same gold that decorates the sand.

Sand dollar

Now THIS is rich.  King Neptune has coughed up his treasure, drizzling it on the shores of Coronado for my children to gather, sand sliding between their fingers as they pick up one, then two, then a third… struggling to juggle their bounty in little hands.

And I am stuck. They are like wild children – their energy boundless.

I’m lucky.  A witness to their joy. They are in love with life. And it loves them right back…. the sun, the surf, the sand… kissing their hair, caressing their toes.

Sea lion
I marveled at their amazement as a baby sea lion waddled from the surf just feet away from us, taking cover in the nearby rocks.

I’m mentally capturing this moment, trapping it like time in a bottle.  It is always here that I am most reflective. I can hit pause and reset.

Where does their energy come from?  Can I have some?  Why can’t all kids have what they have?

Watching them overwhelms me with gratitude.  And reaffirms my resolve to both push them to grow from carefree small people into big people who effect change and care about the world around them and to continue to model that behavior for them.

Share BreakfastI think more kids deserve to have the same energy… the same carefree love of life.  Funny to think it can start with something as small as breakfast, but it does. By now, (if you’ve spent any time on this site) you know child hunger is something I have written about many times and you also know my family and I are big fans of Kellogg’s – not only for breakfast, but for the work they do to SHARE BREAKFAST with hungry kids.  It isn’t just what they put on our table in the morning, but what they do for kids who need the same kind of energy my small people already have.  This is my second year working with Kellogg’s and I’ve been delighted to watch the progress of the Share Breakfast campaign…as I write, they are this close to being half way to their goal of donating one million breakfasts to children in need.

And one of the most extraordinary things about Share Breakfast?  You can help simply by spreading the message.  Tweet the message.  Pin it.  Watch the video with the amazing celebrity Taye Diggs.  It is estimated that one in five kids is hungry.  ONE IN FIVE.  That is absurd.  If they are hungry – they don’t have the energy to play and experience joy they way my small people were doing on the beach.  And they definitely don’t have the ability to focus so they can learn in the classroom.

It’s so simple.  Click. Watch. And Share.

Thank you.

As I mentioned above, I do work with Kellogg’s, however, all thoughts and opinions on this site are always the reflection of my own opinions.

I Believe in Superheroes

DaddySuperheroWhen I was little, Superheroes wore capes and masks.  They had hidden identities.  By day they were average….living life, blending in to the every day.  By night they were doing the extraordinary. They were saving lives and avenging the wronged. Rescuing the lost and making wrong right again.

Funny.

I have a different definition of Superhero now.

He doesn’t have a cape.  If given the option, he’d wear a baseball uniform. All day, every day. If my small people aren’t scrambling for his attention, they are reading stories about him…. or someone just like him. He works in the office upstairs.  He can often be seen in our front yard throwing pitches, coaching swings, shooting baskets, helping with homework, taking out the trash, or cleaning up the kitchen after I cook dinner.

He gets up at 4:30 in the morning to head to the gym… getting in that rare ‘me time’ before the day starts so he can have breakfast with the kids and be around for dinner.

He coaches his small people on their sports teams because he loves it. Soccer. Baseball. Softball. Basketball.  I watch him juggle these full teams of kids – their talents, their feelings, their love of the game, their love of learning, their love of being involved.  It isn’t easy.  He does it because he loves the kids.  And he loves his kids – watching them play – helping them grow. And he is really good at it. He has a gift.

Every day he wakes up motivated not only by what he has done the day before, but by the opportunity he has in front of him to help our little ones learn right from wrong, to be grow from good small people in to good big people, to prioritize family the way he has and eventually to don capes of their very own.

Or baseball uniforms.

 

 

The Sports Change of Seasons: My Three Point Laundry Solution

SoftballDelaney2“She’s doing what?”

Feel free to add your own inflection. Those were my words to my husband when he first happened to mention that our small girl – our EIGHT year old – was playing on FOUR sports teams November through March. Yes, four. Two indoor soccer teams and two basketball teams. The mother in me cringed. The former non-athletic-eight-year old in me almost had a heart attack. But you know what? SHE LOVED IT. Every second of it.

She lights up when she is on a team, when she knows it is game day. She is giddy as she ties her cleats or slips on her slides in preparation for heading to the gym for basketball. She gets mad if she is on the bench or sidelines too long – antsy – wanting to join her team.

Some kids are made to play the violin. Some are made to dance. Some are made to sketch. Some excel in the classroom. (and maybe some do many of these)

My small people have both a gift and a love for all things sports.

The Sports Change of Seasons

Cooper SoccerYear-round we move from the court to the field to the diamond. He dives for the perfect catch from his position between 3rd and 2nd. As midfielder, she rears back and kicks with everything her 52 pound body will allow. He jumps for the save as it glances off the striker’s cleat. She wiggles and sets her stance as she enters the batter’s box.

As we enter April, we move from indoor soccer to outdoor soccer, baseball, softball, and for the small dude – a new sport – flag football. As I type, they have been banished to the basement to play ball after knocking my favorite clock from the wall. For the second time. This time it shattered. But, I know their dad – he won’t flinch at the loss of the clock. His worry will focus on the strength of the pitch that brought the clock down: what style was thrown? How fast what the pitch?

Ahhh – living in the home of the athletic, with a father who thinks nothing of playing ball inside the house.

Today starts with a pitching lesson for the small girl, continues with baseball practice for the small dude and this evening will find the four of us camped on the couch watching a certain college basketball tournament. You know it IS March… As a family, we enjoy watching the games as much as they enjoy playing. (I’m being corrected as I type – my small girl prefers to be PLAYING.) Unfortunately, the team I picked to win the tournament lost in the second round (Seriously, Gonzaga??) But in the family pool, I’m still going strong – and there is ice cream on the line.

What’s My Role?

You might be wondering – with my utter lack of athletic ability, how I fit in to this family. If I try to play catch with my small people, I’m corrected. My small girl once told me, “Mommy, you have to hold the glove in front of your face or I’m going to break your nose.” Strange that I was never taught how to catch.

I never pictured myself as a ‘soccer mom’. Or a baseball-softball-basketball-football-mom for that matter. But, in a way, I’m all of the above. Because being those moms means I’m the champion for the small people I adore – the little ones working their tails off doing something they love.

I also have the luxury of being a teacher. Teaching what, you wonder? Because it certainly isn’t mastering how to pitch, the art of the jump shot or how to maneuver the soccer ball with one foot, but I have support DOWN. By modeling this, Delaney and Cooper are almost as excited to sit in the stands for each other as they are to play. And through these sports, we’ve also focused on the life lessons of winning and losing, working as a team and how practice can help you improve.

Tide PodsI’m not sure what the weather is like in your part of the country, but here in St. Louis, it has been rough. Fourteen inches of snow this past Monday has now melted into a sloppy mess. This means our fields and diamonds are the equivalent of a mud bath. So, you know what else I get to teach my small people?  How to do the laundry. Just last week my small girl started asking for lessons. As it stands now, my husband and I share duties, but I happen to know I have a little more expertise – and a little more desire to see the uniform stains disappear.

So, as the ‘madness’ of March concludes – as we move from the indoor sports to the outdoor, I’m working with Tide – specifically Tide Pods to tackle what the dirt, mud and outdoor craziness will soon be doing to the small dude’s white baseball pants and both of their soccer and softball uniforms. Here’s the thing about Tide Pods – they call it a ‘three point solution’ – since the detergent, in some fabulous way, uses stain-fighting, cleaning and brightening power to take the madness out of the laundry I do daily, but I simply call it a home-run. (and this is coming from a girl who used to do the same load more than once because she COULDN’T get the stains out!) In addition to the traditional Tide Pods, I have fallen in love with the Tide Boost Vivid for Bright Whites – these are Tide Pacs.

Will your small people be playing sports this Spring?  What do they love the most?

Disclosure: I am working with Tide Pods for this campaign heading in to the Spring Sports Season.  As always, all thoughts and opinions are mine and mine alone.

All Dogs Go To Heaven

A few weeks ago, I sat in my office, broken-hearted from missing my grandmother’s 100th birthday.  It couldn’t be helped.  The flu had attacked the small dude the very day we were supposed to board our flight and it was only days before my small girl and then my small dude again were bed-ridden with an entirely different intestinal virus.

Naturally, my parents, though understanding (what can you do about the flu??), were devastated to miss us – especially their grandchildren.  Living on the left coast with us in the middle of the country isn’t easy.  Somehow, Delaney and Cooper seem to grow inches and lose teeth between every sighting. Because he masquerades as a real dad, but truly lives life as a Superhero, my sweet husband suggested a last minute trip to San Diego for Easter to visit my parents.

My parents did mental handstands.  The small people did real ones.  Jeff dusted off his cape and went back to work.  I felt peaceful for the first time in two weeks.

MumMurphy

Until last night.

My parents have two dogs and seeing them when we visit is an incredible highlight for my sweet ones.  I cry now as I type.  Murphy, their lovely black lab, who has been with them for more than a dozen years, has been living with a tumor pushing on her bladder for the past two years.  She took a terrible turn on Friday night.  She can no longer walk. Her kidneys are failing.  Today is to be her last day.  My poor mom is heart-broken.

My parents took their pup out in the sunshine, to Shelter Island in San Diego – where she is normally greeted by dozens of other dogs.  But not today.  Today she was approached by only one: Haley.  Another dog seeing the sunshine, the outside, for the last time. You have to figure that Haley knows she will be seeing Murphy again tomorrow, right?  Why not make a friend now that you’ll be soon seeing in heaven.

That’s where all dogs go, you know.

Skype Mum Dad MurphySeeing my mom with her girl hurt my heart. Telling my small people? Oh, this motherhood gig is a bear.  Delaney’s eyes watered, she asked questions and she hugged me.  But Cooper?  Well, I used the phrase, ‘put her to sleep’…. so naturally, my six year old asked, “Well, ok, Mommy, but how long will she have to be asleep?” I don’t know that I could describe his look of shock and anguish when I explained that she was actually going to die because she is so sick.

He covered his face, put his head in my lap and cried.

Through the miracle of technology we spoke to my parents via skype tonight – Murphy snuggled up between them – exactly as she will be until tomorrow.  It was a bittersweet conversation.  We made it *almost* to the end without tears.  My heart hurts for my mom who will miss her companion, the one who greeted her at the door as she came home every day, who rested her head in her lap as she watched TV and who begged for carrots as a ‘treat’.  I hurt for my small people who are being touched by death in even the smallest of ways.

All dogs go to heaven, but does Murphy have to go right now?  The question my small people can’t seem to comprehend….

 

Make it Personal: Valentine’s From My Small People

We are not the craftiest of households.  With the exception of Christmas, I’m lucky to get the house decorated for ANY other holiday before the week OF said holiday.  I’m looking at you Halloween and Easter.  My small people don’t seem to mind.  It could be that they are conditioned that way.  They simply don’t expect to see a St. Patrick’s Day wreath appear on our front door, oh… say next week.

We don’t have placemats and mantle decor that rotate in and out with regularity.  Martha Stewart, I am not.  I’m diligent about the time I spend with my small people and though our Easter eggs do eventually see dye (the day before) and our pumpkins are always carved (usually also the day before  - and THIS YEAR my husband did it – oh happy day!) I’m always quick to ask my little ones what they want to do when it comes to crafty activities.

Personalized Valentine ExtraordinaryMommy.comTake Valentine’s, for example.  We always buy them. Easy, right? Take them to the store, let them pick their poison.  And then stand over them as they sign their name to each one.  But this year was different.  I actually asked them if they wanted to do personalized Valentines.

AND THEY DID.

SO WE DID.

It was so much fun.  And they are so darn cute, I can’t stand it.  So, I just had to share.  I found the idea on Pinterest. (shocker!)

I had the small people each stand against a plain wall and hold our their right hand, making a fist.  I made sure the fist was in focus and forefront in the picture.

Valentine Personalized - setting the shot - ExtraordinaryMommy.com

I took the picture with my iphone and then uploaded it to PicMonkey so I could play with it.  I added the border and text.

Personalized Valentine - Text and frame from PicMonkey - ExtraordinaryMommy.com

I ordered the number of copies I needed from Walgreens – 4×6′s and bought simple red Valentine’s lollipops.

I cut small slits above and below the fist and slid that sucker right through.

Kids Personalize Valentines - ExtraordinaryMommy.com

Voila!

Kids Personalize Valentines - ExtraordinaryMommy.com

Also?  This whole adventure cost me just under $12 for 75 cards.  Walgreens was running a promo for 10 cent prints and I bought two bags for $2.19 each.

What did you decide to do this year?  Something made at home – or did you buy cards?