Country Music Artists at the ACMs Talk Hope, Music and Child Hunger

He sat in the back of the classroom.  Kept to himself.  Brought his lunch in a brown paper bag.

Every day he pulled half a sandwich from his bag, and a small piece of bruised fruit…. if he was lucky.

Every day he folded that same brown paper bag up and put it in his backpack to take home.

It wasn’t unusual to see him eyeing the leftovers so many kids in his class were carelessly tossing away.

Kids made fun of him because he was the tallest in our class.  And because he was quiet.  And because his clothes were often dirty and unkempt.  But do you know what he really was?

Hungry.

It took me almost a quarter of a century to understand that.

His name was James.  James wasn’t a statistic.  He had a story.  What he didn’t have was hope.

It is easy to tell you there are 16 million kids in this country just like James.  The greater challenge: getting the average person to know, to understand, to care.  It is hard to care about numbers, but it is equally hard to ignore emotion, to ignore stories…  to ignore the idea of HOPE.

And when HOPE and STORIES are delivered through music, the result can be magic.  At least that’s what these Country Music stars at this year’s Academy of Country Music Awards told me on the Red Carpet before hearing the World Premiere of ‘Here’s Hope’ – the song Con Agra Food and Child Hunger Ends Here HOPE can motivate us to make a positive change.

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I Believe: The Love Of A Child Can Heal Anything

“Are you Ok, Mommy?”….  my small girl has asked me every single day for the past week.

She has reached out to hug me, wrapping her tiny arms around me, pulling my head, not to hers, but to her chest, so that she might pet my hair….a comforting gesture I would like to think she has learned from me.

She has let me cry.  Correction:  She has encouraged me to cry.  She hasn’t run away, wounded, frightened, that something in me is clearly broken at the loss of my friend… but instead, she is concerned, wise beyond her years, I suspect.  She tilts her head in concern, her eyes locked on mine each time she asks, “Mommy, are you sure you are ok?”

We sat in church last Thursday night… Holy Thursday. The first strains of this song played…. followed by the first words, “How Beautiful“…. and the tears came. The song was sung at my wedding…. and the words reminded me instantly of my sweet friend. The grief continues to flow in waves…. leaving me at once secure in the strength of a cried-out soul and next teary-eyes wrapped in the arms of my littlest. My sweet small people didn’t panic…. their little grips on my hands tightened and Cooper reached up to wipe my face, “It’s ok, Mommy….”

At one point in the Mass, they prayed for “the sick, the lonely and the broken-hearted”….  Delaney’s hand squeezed mine once…twice…three times….our sign for “I love you” and she whispered, “Mommy…. they are talking about you”.

My sweet, sweet girl… at only seven, can see that a piece of my heart is broken and yet somehow knows that it is the comfort of her touch and her love that will help me to heal.

I never imagined myself on the receiving end of healing love from my children. I have always pictured myself, cape tucked firmly around my neck, ‘S’ for Supermom painted proudly on my chest swooping in to save their day and wipe their tears.  Little did I know that their presence, their comfort could save me and dry mine.

I believe the love of your children can heal anything.

The Perfect Date

I had a date Friday night.

This Girl was the most beautiful thing I’d ever seen.  She had sandy brown hair, with deep, dark brown eyes, and a smile that made me smile.  Really.  She would smile, then I would smile instantly.  I tried to play it cool, but she made me feel like I was a kid again.

We had dinner at my house.  It was Good Friday, so I made a cheese dish with a fruit salad.  It’s not that she’s a vegetarian, but her religion would not allow her to eat meat on the Friday prior to Easter.  I respect a girl who stays true to her upbringing.  So, we feasted on “Quesadilla con Manzanas.”  Que Bueno.

After this scrumptious feast, we drove to St. Louis’ FOX Theater to see the Musical “Bring It On.”  I had one eye on the stage and one on this beautiful angel to my left.  The show was about a High School Cheerleading Squad (if you’ve seen the movie by the same title, then you get the gist of the musical).  The cast was the most talented group of people I’ve ever seen in one location.  For 2 and half hours, they sang, danced, twirled, tumbled and stomped their way into my memory forever.  How are people that talented?  I couldn’t even memorize that much copy, much less sing it, dance and do back handsprings across a stage in perfect synchronization.  And, it was LIVE.  One take.  Fantastic.

During the Intermission, my date and I talked about High School.  She wouldn’t stop asking questions about my High School experience, and I asked her questions about her schooling.  She’s very smart with much to offer to the conversation.  I was thoroughly engaged.  It turns out she’s a very good singer, but is a bit shy in public.  Very cute.

During the 2nd Act, she whispered in my ear that she was very thankful for me taking her to see this show, and even held my hand.  I smiled.  Again.

As we bounced out of the theater singing some of the songs from the night’s performance, we were planning our next date.  It turns out that she’s a baseball fan.

Jackpot!!!

Then, we headed back to her home.  I had the Radio tuned to XM79.  That’s Radio Disney for you non fans.  We sang all the way, well almost all of the way.  As we pulled into her driveway, I noticed that she had fallen asleep.  So, I parked the car, scooped her up in my arms, carried my date inside, tucked her into her bed and kissed her forehead.

Before I left her bedside, I whispered into her ear, “May all your dreams come true Delaney.  Thank you for being my date tonight.  Daddy loves you. Give me an I-L-O-V-E-U-A lot.”

 

My Heart Is Aching, But Heaven Is One Star Brighter

It always happens.

The morning after.

You wake after a night of crying, a day of loss, and you have one moment…one beautiful, solitary moment when everything is right in the world.  Because THAT is the moment before the moment when reality crashes into you like a semi truck in the wrong lane speeding at you in a nightmare.

And you are suddenly awake and without air.

It is close to impossible to breathe because you remember.  And of all things you know in the world at that moment – you don’t want to remember.

My friend Gina died on Monday.

I started to write about her yesterday, but found myself at such a loss.

My heart physically hurts.  When I found out, I was, in fact, unable to breathe. My poor small girl was sitting next to me and ran for my husband.  She told him I couldn’t breathe.  And she was right.  I doubled over, barely able to say her name.  But, that was all he needed to hear.

Gina had cancer.  It took less than a year to steal her away from everyone who loved her.

For 36 hours, I’ve been struggling to find the right words to describe my friend – to tell you about her, to explain why this loss is so tragic.  And, I can’t seem to find them. Any death of someone so young is a tremendous loss, I know.

Gina was special. Dare I say extraordinary….

How do I describe the most selfless person I know? How do I explain the multitude of ways she made me better, or how she never missed an opportunity to encourage me, tell me she loved me or supported what I was doing? How do I begin to recount the dozens of organizations she helped, the people she inspired, the lives she touched? This is a woman who donated her time and talents to the Pujols Foundation multiple times a year, for free, because she felt called to do so.  She photographed Proms and special events, even traveling with them to the Dominican Republic.

“How can I help you?”  I can’t be the only person who heard Gina say those words over and over again – no expectation of anything in return. To call her a ‘giver’ doesn’t do her justice.  Giving was simply part of her nature, a portion of her soul.  I came across this article I wrote about her three years ago – she has always been extraordinary.

Gina was a mother, a sister, a friend, a woman of faith, a defender of those in need, a fighter, a brilliant, talented photographer and someone I can honestly say made me better.

I wandered my house today… Gina is present in nearly every room.  She has been taking photographs of my family for years.  She started before Cooper was born. If you have received a Christmas card from us in the last 5 or 6 years (with the exception of this year) our smiles had Gina’s fingerprints all over them.


She had a special way with my small people…. treating them with such kindness, as though time with them was a gift.  So for Ms. Gina?  They always gave their best smiles, their goofiest silly faces, their biggest jumps, their best ‘leaf throwing’, their biggest hugs.  And she never missed an opportunity to tell me how much she adored them.  If we made a lunch date?  She *wanted* them to come…..

You know… Gina is the photographer who took our ‘stolen photo’ that ended up in Prague, right?  (up there in the middle of that first collage?) We laughed about it even when we talked last week.

When. We. Talked. Last. Week.

This is one of the things that is comforting me right now.  I didn’t see her, as I’d hoped.  But we talked, we laughed…. she sounded like she was in such good spirits, though she did tell me she was heading to Tulsa because her situation had worsened. I guess I didn’t want to believe what ‘worse’ really meant.

I still have the texts on my phone she sent during a trivia night in her honor (she was too sick to attend)…. I’ve been looking back at the messages she sent me on Facebook.  Even faced with such an extreme challenge, her faith and will to fight never waivered.  She was fighting for her life…. fighting for her family.

She leaves behind a lot of people who loved her – including a daughter and son, both who considered her their best friend.  If that doesn’t mean something special, I don’t know what does.

You were a treasure, my friend.

When I last wrote about Gina, it inspired poetry from a stranger.  That’s the kind of soul stirring she motivated.

She was THAT good.

I am better for having known this beautiful soul.  I will always miss her.

Opening Day: Why I’m Not Going To See The World Champion St. Louis Cardinals (A Dad’s Perspective)

You know that feeling of “I want to get to bed NOW because I cannot wait to wake up tomorrow.”  It’s 6pm.  You’ve already eaten dinner, taken a shower, brushed your teeth, placed your slippers at the end of the bed, hung your robe on the back of your door, and set your alarm for 4:29am. (Sidebar:  I’ve never worn slippers or a robe, but I look forward to that day) (Another Sidebar:  I wake up at 4:29am every day.  There’s significance to the 4:29.  I’ll explain further down).

My kids have that feeling on Christmas Eve, the night before their birthday, evening prior to heading out of town on vacation, day before first day of school, night before going to Six Flags, I could go on and on.  Wow, when we were kids, we had a lot of those.  So, what gives you that feeling?  I have one night a year when I get this feeling.

And, that night is tonight.

Tomorrow is Opening Day.  Super baseball fans will argue that the Mariners and A’s have already played “games that count” last week in Japan.  True.  But, tomorrow is the first “regular season” game in the ole USA.  Major League Baseball Starts this season showcasing the World Champs, St Louis Cardinals, on the road in baseball’s newest ballpark with baseball’s only “renamed” franchise in 2012, the Miami Marlins.

It just so happens that the World Champs happen to be my team.  The last time that I was this excited was a late Friday Night this past October as I danced down Broadway in Downtown St Louis when “my team” won its 11th World Championship.  So, after the Champs open their season on the road, they’ll return to Busch Stadium to open up the 2012 Home season celebrating last season’s Championship run.  Who would pass up a chance to be at that celebration?

Well, me.

Quick story.  Buddy of mine calls today to say he has two extra tickets for next Friday’s Home Opener.  Two hours prior to this call, I receive my 7 year old daughter’s Softball schedule and she has a game that same night.  I’m not passing judgment on the majority of those that would rather go to the Home Opener, but that day has passed for this baseball (and now softball) fan.  I went to 9 straight Home Openers with my Dad when I was a young fan.  The best part of going to the game was NOT the game, nor the parade of Budweiser Clydesdales high stepping into Busch, it was going to the game with my Dad.  And, see, the best part of my life now is going to games with my kids and even better, watching my two all-stars play.  I love it.  I live for it.  (Dang, this post just threw a curve ball at you, eh?)

So, while I contemplate going to bed right now (It’s 4 o’clock in the afternoon as I write this), I know that I have another one of these nights coming in one week, as my 7 year old shortstop plays her season opener, then, yet another 3 weeks after that as my 5 year old future Major Leaguer has his season opener.  Wow.  I am still a kid.  I do have a lot of these “nights” left in me.

Well, I just glanced at the clock.  It’s 4:29pm.  I must wake in exactly 12 hours.  See, #4 is Cardinal Catcher, Yadier Molina and #29 is Cardinal Ace, Chris Carpenter, best battery in baseball.  I wake everyday thinking about my favorite game, and I go to bed tonight dreaming of tomorrow, Opening Day.

I would turn back the covers right now, but I have to get to a Little League Baseball practice then over to a Fast Pitch Softball scrimmage.  Once we’ve touched those two bases, I have a game of my own.  Yes.  I still play baseball.  Then, it’ll be time to head for home…to score some sleep before tomorrow’s big day.  I cannot wait…

Sincerely,

A Baseball Fan (and Daddy)

 

 

The Red Carpet at the Academy of Country Music Awards: Talking Hope and Child Hunger

We are just going to go right ahead and say tonight was magic. I spent three hours on the Red Carpet for the Academy of Country Music Awards (yes, my feet hurt)…. talking to artist after artist about their ACM experience, what is coming up next in their careers and about the power of HOPE in music. The Lifting Lives Moment during the ACMs highlighted the epidemic of Child Hunger in America – with a gorgeous rendition of “Here’s Hope” – a song written by ACM New Artist of the New Nominee, Hunter Hayes. The song was performed by Little Big Town and earned a standing ovation.

So well deserved.

This first picture you see here?  That’s me going all fan-girl on Clay Walker – the Country Musician who is responsible for my love of country music.  His songs first drew me in 20 years ago…

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And this here? This is Deana Carter – and ‘Strawberry Wine’ – one of her first singles (also from the 90′s) is one I will always love.  She was nominated tonight as a songwriter for Song of the Year…. she co-wrote Kenny Chesney’s ‘You and Tequila’.

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You probably recognize Gwen Sebastian from The Voice.  Though she is no longer on the show…. she does have amazing news…Blake Shelton has just asked her to tour with him.  Shocking: she said yes.

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What is Montel Williams doing at the ACMs? Sharing his love of country music and spreading the news about his newly release COUNTRY music song: Ooh Baby, which benefits MS.  Chatting with him was great fun.

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The guys from Lo Cash Country were two of my favorites…. they were fun and really embracing their very first ACM experience.  They have a new song coming out soon that they promised would get me up dancing.

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From the Red Carpet, we headed back stage to await the winners…  What I love the most?  How humble they are.  Blake Shelton was still reeling from winning Male Vocalist of the Year and couldn’t stop beaming about his wife, Miranda Lambert’s evening successes.

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Toby Keith, winner of Video of the Year, kept everyone laughing talking about “Red Solo Cup’ as one of the most stupid songs he’s ever heard…but how much fun it is to perform – not to mention, this song is the one and only time he’s ever crossed over to the pop charts from country.

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Thompson Square was shocked to have won Vocal Duo of the Year…. facing stiff competition from powerhouses Montgomery Gentry and Sugarland. This category has belonged to Sugarland or Brooks & Dunn since 1991.

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So many more highlights – and SO MUCH video to be sharing soon, but I just had to share a few quick snippets.  I truly had the time of my life.  I will confess I was almost sick to my stomach I was so nervous… but as soon as it got started…my adrenaline, my love of interviewing, my love of country music and my commitment to Child Hunger kicked in and you couldn’t have erased my smile if you tried.

A million thanks to Con Agra Foods for trusting me with such an important part of their campaign, Child Hunger Ends Here.  I’m truly honored.

ACM Bound

So, here I go.

On my way to Las Vegas.  Set for the Red Carpet at the Academy of Country Music Awards.

Despite my endless flights of panic this week, the fears that things might not fall into place (including the last minute stress of an en route dress that I was certain would never arrive – but did) I am taking one breath at a time and attempting to absorb this experience.

I will confess….wrapped tightly within my uber-excitement is a ball of nervous energy.  This feels like a marathan I have been training for.  Except I’ve been training my entire adult life and someone finally said, ‘Run!’.

So, here I go.  Running.  And I’m thrilled beyond anything I can express.  And determined to make every portion of this experience count.

My flight left before 6 am this morning and my day promises to continue for the better part of the next 20 hours. I have a full schedule even before my 9am hair and make up appointment tomorrow morning.  Which, incidentally, was the LAST appointment available and is about 5 hours before my silver-clad tootsies step on to that Red Carpet.

What does today include?  OH MY HEAVENS….TODAY!

I trust you know WHY I’m going to the Academy of Country Music Awards, yes?  I first talked about it here.  But as a quick refresher: during the ACM’s, there is a beautiful charitable segment called the Lifting Lives Moment where a special cause is highlighted.  This year, Child Hunger Ends Here, an effort championed by Con Agra Foods, is the focus.  A song co-written by 20 year old ACM New Artist of the Year Nominee, Hunter Hayes, will be performed by Little Big Town.

The song is called ‘Here’s Hope’.  It is gorgeous.  You can hear it on the Child Hunger Ends Here site.

When I arrive in Las Vegas, I will be attending Little Big Town’s rehearsal for their ACM performance of ‘Here’s Hope’.

Giddy.

And then?

I will be sitting down with Hunter Hayes to chat with him about the thrill of being nominated as ACM New Artist of the Year, and well, a few dozen other questions.  I kid.  Sort of.

Also?  If you attended Blissdom, you may have received one of these books, Amy Giggles, written by Coy Bowles of the Zac Brown Band.  I’m ALSO going to be sitting down with Coy this afternoon to talk to him about his book and his charitable efforts with kids.

The book is delightful.

I can’t wait to share all of the video with you.

Whew.

I *should* be tired thinking about it.

But, I’m not.  I’m still pinching myself to make sure I’m not dreaming.