I’m Home. And I am Grateful.

Since coming home from the Book Tour for Mom, Incorporated, my small people have been attached to my hip.  I would love to be tough and tell you it is just them, but really – it is easily as much me as anything else.  I honestly cannot get enough of them.

They aren’t even getting on my nerves when they are fighting.



Well, that’s a lie.  But you know what I mean.  Because, really?  The fighting is ridiculous.  But, other than that – they are divine.  They want desperately to hold my hand, to help me make dinner, to sit next to me on the couch, even to help put laundry away – as long as it is something WITH me. And do you know how many times a day these small people say, “Mommy, you’re so pretty….”?  It is almost like they are seeing me for the first time.

I certainly have moments when I feel like this might be the first time I am really seeing them.  They seem so big.  So grown up.  And so very baby all at the same time.  They are sharing stories, asking questions and talking, talking, talking…. They want my opinion and are dying to share theirs….

Today, Delaney asked, “Mommy….when are you leaving again?”  The joy when I said, “Not any time soon, Baby….” was palpable.

At this moment, I will do anything to see that joy again.  And so…. I am home.  And I am grateful.

The Tooth Fairy Runs Marathons, Hangs out in Arcades & Lies

Dear Reader,

I came dangerously close to losing whatever Mommy street cred I currently possess.

This may have happened to you.

I hyperventilate just a touch as I write.  Because, quite honestly, I am not ready for the repercussions of my actions. I love that my small people still believe….

You see this face right here?  Or, more accurately, the mouth attached to that sweet little face?  It is now missing it’s 6th tooth.  A friend recently asked if they make dentures for small people.  If they do, this small girl would be a candidate.  Those two top teeth are missing, and now – the 6th tooth( THANKFULLY – the only remaining loose one) and the latest to fall is the bottom left.

It happened on Sunday while we were at the mall.  Sunday night I was up until 2am finishing the last chapter of the book which HAD.TO.GET.DONE.  I stumbled to bed. Exhausted. And relieved.

And, you guessed it…. FORGETTING TO BE THE DAMN TOOTH FAIRY. This is a first.  I had never before forgotten.

The small girl was in my bed on Monday morning.  I actually said, ‘hey, what are you doing here?’ and in my best cartoon-esque impersonation attempted to shove every last syllable backintomymouthimmediately because it hit me as the words came tumbling out that I had failed in an epic way.

“Mommy….  I can’t WAIT to see what the Tooth Fairy left me.”

“Me too, Baby…. but first, you know you have to go to the bathroom…. no, not in your bathroom…use mine!”

AND. THEN. I. RAN.

I dashed into my closet, grabbed two coins from my Tooth Fairy stash (my old silver bank that houses the Silver Dollars the Tooth Fairy left ME as a child) as quickly I could, and bolted to the small girl’s room.  I tossed her pillow aside, grabbed the Tooth bag, cursed the double knot (can you hear me hyperventilating as I share this?) shook the tooth loose – YOU KNOW I DROPPED THE DASTARDLY THING ON THE FLOOR – snatched it back up – deposited the coins – and quickthrewitallbackinplace….

BREATHE….

I was next door in Cooper’s room…. itty-bitty tooth clutch tightly in my left hand when the sweet girl came to me, hand outstretched….

“Mommy…  Look, I got a quarter and….what do you think this is?  I bet Daddy will know….”

Are you KIDDING ME?

I grabbed an ARCADE TOKEN? (who even knows why I had one in my bank….likely a remnant from my childhood)

The stupid thing actually says NO CASH VALUE on the back of it…. If this was, in fact a cartoon, this would be the moment I bang my head up against the closest wall.  Instead, I smile, tell her I’m certain the Tooth Fairy meant for me to trade with her – and we proceeded to drop it in the coin jar before she decided to read it.

Again….  are you kidding me?

I’ve actually sat up at night hand writing responses from the Tooth Fairy.  She has a name.  No kids.  A job.  White wings.  Loves what she does….  and somehow, of all the coins, in all the world?  An arcade token.  Please.

Can’t wait for the small dude to start losing them.

Oh and my favorite….  I relay the story to my husband…. you know they guy who has never donned the white wings?  He says, “why didn’t you just grab another silver dollar?”

As if the Marathon, the Arcade Token and the lying were all part of the plan.

*sigh*

When do you take your Holiday Decorations Down?

For some reason this year, we were R-E-A-D-Y to take things down right away.  That isn’t always the case….  but it left me wondering….

When do you take yours down?  (Or are you already done and back to normal?)

No more apologizing from me….

There is this little thing I do, too often.  I recognize it as a flaw, but I do it so frequently, that it has become habit.

Today, a friend of mine reminded me, with a brilliant post, that it is a habit I need to break:

I say “I’m sorry” at least 27 times a day.  Now, according to Stephanie’s post, I’m not alone – women do it a lot. With my hand raised firmly in the air, I acknowledge that I am one of those women.

“I’m sorry I didn’t get back to you sooner.”

“I’m sorry I missed your call.”

“I’m sorry, but I can’t get to your house by 7pm.”

“I’m sorry, but I won’t be able to join you/volunteer, etc.”

“I’m sorry, Buddy, but that is just the way it is…”

“I’m sorry honey, but no snack so close to dinner time…

and my favorite:

“I’m sorry, but I really just can’t do that work without compensation.” (my favorite because those words have actually (recently) come out of my mouth AND did I really apologize because I was unwilling to do work for free?

So, in solidarity with other women reading along and dear-goodness-because-I-need-to-stop-saying-it (if my husband was reading over my shoulder he would wonder why HIS nagging on the subject hadn’t been effective and yet this post got me moving….)  I decided I would make it my mission to avoid saying, “I’m sorry” or “I apologize” unless it fits – meaning I have said or done something wrong.

I caught myself 7 times (no joke) both in conversation and via email just today after reading Stephanie’s psot..  Only one of those times was I unable to delete and/or stop myself before the words came flying out of my mouth…

I realize that it sounds polite, that “I’m sorry” has become mainstream, even code for something less than “It’s my fault and I will fix it…” but yet, I really have nothing to be sorry for when the words often tumble out of my mouth, or worse into an email.

So….  today…  down with “I’m sorry”.

Gratitude for Halloween and Good Neighbors

Halloween may be officially over.

The small people may already be planning their costumes for next year. (Coop wants to be a Ninja)

I may be gaining pounds simply because I am sitting too close to the Reese’s Peanut Butter Cups.

It may be Christmas before I get Coop and Delaney to stand that close to each other for a picture again.

But this Pretend Holiday reminded me of a few things.

1) I really don’t like candy.

2) I do, however like chocolate.  And if it is in my house, I will eat it.

3) If you want to get rid of your candy, leave it on your porch with a ‘take 2′ sign – kids are guaranteed to take handfuls….  leaving you (blessedly) without leftovers.

4) Our neighborhood is awesome.  The kids are great.  The parents are fantastic.

5) My kids are lucky – they are making memories with their wonderful friends…..  Already, they are saying, “remember last year…..”

6) My husband’s penguin costume will never get old. (4 years running)

Almost makes me want to find a costume for next year.  Almost.

A shopping trip with my Girl (or how you can win $150 to JCPenney)

When she was just this little blinking heart beat on a screen…..from the moment the doctor said, “you are having a girl!”….I began to have admittedly superficial Mother-Daughter dreams.

You know….like girl talks, lunches, giggling about boys and, naturally, shopping.

Now that my small girl is 6, she is both sweet and sassy. She is hard at work developing a strong personality of her own and that includes taking ownership for her sense of style.  For the first time, we embarked on a Mom-Daughter Shopping Excursion (courtesy of JCPenney) during which I allowed her to pick EVERYTHING she wanted to try on…..

And this, my friends, was the posing that resulted and
the outfits she chose:

The goal of this shopping trip was to help Delaney discover her style….and, of course, for her (and I suppose me too) to have fun while doing it.  She is not super-girly….she turned up that cute little nose at anything that was too ‘sweet’.  She’ll do glitter.  She will embrace glitzy, but seems to think that a ‘rocker’ edge is more appealing.  And hats?  And ties?  Bring.It.On.

This was such a new experience – she said no to at least half of my ‘what do you think of this?’ displays.  And no amount of , “but I think this would be adorable….” was going to change that stubborn little mind.

I’m not sure where she gets her conviction. But I am proud of her.

Can you stand the smile?  I have to confess I really had so much fun.

To encourage you to help your kids discover their Back-to-School style- we are giving away a $150 shopping spree to JCPenney….

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Wordless Wednesday – My Days of BabyWearing

Today my small dude seemed so grown up.  He came home from school, stood as tall as his 41 and 1/2 inches would allow and said, “Mommy, did you know…..being PO-LIGHT means being
CURT-E-US?”

And a blinked…..and for a moment, he was only this big…..

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And then I opened my eyes and he was back to big my great big 4 year old…..